Something To Think About:

Something To Think About:
Children are like wet cement, whatever falls on them makes an impression.

--Hiam Ginott

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Introducing: Ainsley Elisabeth!

Nope.
I got no laundry finished today.
Mere started labor this morning and they went to the hospital at 4:30am.
They slowed her labor down until noon because she had to be off the heparin shot meds for 12 hours to avoid post partum hemorraghing and in order to have an epidural.  At noon they let her go and Ainsley was born at 7:19pm.

 Mommy's first hold and cuddle.

 "Good job, babe."

 Daddy and daughter.

Ainsley Elisabeth.
5 pounds 15 ounces
18 1/2 inches long
And has the most hair I've ever seen on a newborn baby.  You can put it in ponytails already or a barrett.  Everyone commented on how much she has.  And it is dark, dark, dark.

She is perfect in everyway and cute as a button!  She is a teeny one, like her mommy.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Family Home Evening--in 10.

We've been called to repentance.  At Saturday stake conference, we were counseled to do better at family home evening and family prayer.  Yes, we've been slacking on family home evening.  With Christine having practice every week night and pretty much all adults here in the house, fhe has not been a regular around here lately.  SO.  Duff and I are recommitted to getting it back on the routine.  We had a 10 minute lesson and challenge on family history work.  Our local leaders have charged everyone to have a temple recommend--even limited use for youth age in the family--and to attend the temple more often than we do.  And to attend the family history class during Sunday School hour and get.it.done.  So that is our goal.  Duff gave us all assignments and we have to report back next week.  We are going to set a date to go to the temple as a family each month.  Chris will go with us and do baptisms while we are serving otherwise.  I learned that as long as you let the temple know you are bringing a youth age with you they will do baptisms with them.  Cool, huh.
My laundry is way behind.  Last week was a killer.  I hardly made a dent in it today.  Oh, well.  I have tomorrow, right?

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Weekend Wrapup.

Ward Conference for AC Ward.  Great conference.  I have enjoyed attending and training at these.  The messages are different for the make-up of each ward and I have noticed that.  Bishop Hess talked about wanting to be buried with a fork.  Huh?  Their ward had held two funerals last week and have some members in ICU.  It was a rough week for this ward family.  To him, after a dinner when the waiter says you can keep your fork, it means the best is yet to come!  Dessert.  And he tied that in to living and death and the gospel that the 'best' is yet to come.  I liked that analogy.

I got home from my meetings with two hours of alone time before my family got home from theirs.  I took advantage of it and got dinner in the oven and made a yellow cake with chocolate frosting.  Then I sat and read my scriptures and prayed for a while.  It was nice and quiet and felt good.

Next week I'm going to regroup from this past busy week and help Meredith get some frozen dinners in their freezer before the baby comes.  She is scheduled for the 8th, but I just have a feeling she won't last until then.

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Winter Formal 2012--The Date

 The Hair--by Meredith, and a last bit of lip gloss.

 The Shoes.
Heels for pictures, and high top Converse to dance in.  The girls all do this now.  Pretty shoes for the pics and comfy for the rest of the evening.
We could not find red high tops for a reasonable price at the last minute.  Last night it came to me:  change out the laces with satin ribbon.  Perfect and it only cost $2.00.  Yes.

 The Date.
Very handsome Brandon.  Love his Volcom belt.

 The flowers and jewelry.

 The group all met up at The Courtyard for pictures and dinner.
They left from there in the limo.
Cute couple.

 Sarah H. and Christine.
They've been friends since birth.  Baptized on the same day too.
(Look at Chrissy's smile sans braces...!)

 Pictures are over and now they are ready to dance the night away.

Dinner and beverages at the Courtyard.

Mere has all the other pictures.  With Christine's good camera.  Chris will edit them with photoshop and post some soon.

Chris had a great time and liked going with Brandon.  Sidenote:  All 3 of her brothers met him at the door when he came to pick her up.  They nicely let him know he better treat her right.  Brandon was a good sport with all of them.  That just could be a bit intimidating.  He has such a good personality though he answered all their questions and took it right in stride.

There was a nice after party at the Hrabik's.
Winter Formal 2012 was a big hit!

Winter Formal 2012--The Asking

 Christine and some of her friends asked their dates for Winter Formal.
It was a group invitation.
They planned the whole thing and somehow got all the guys over at the same time for the 'asking'.

 Then they had a huge water fight with balloons and giant squirt guns.
In January, no less.  But we've been having unseasonably warm weather so they didn't freeze to death.
Christine asked Brandon Neilson.
She is excited to get to know him better.

They all headed over to the Kinnison's for some food, movies, and games.

Friday, January 27, 2012

Baby Showers

The last two weeks we have attended baby showers for Meredith.
On the 12th her ward gave her a shower.
It was at Mattie Gibson's house and so many people came to show their love and support for Josh and Meredith and Baby Girl.
(Christine took all those pictures with her new Canon Rebel T2i that she got for Christmas.
She is really into photography since she took those classes last year and won all her awards.  We had no idea.  This year she is using her photography and doing broadcast journalism with it at school.  She is currently co-anchoring the school news network, TNN. Who knows where this might go...?)

On the 19th, her boss-and dear friend- hosted a shower for the ward she and Josh both grew up in.
I have a few pictures from that.  Geesh.  My camera is lame now compared to Christine's. Haha.

 Presents.

 The Grandmas.
Yes, we planned our pink shirts, and it was fun to do.

 Heidi and Auntie Coy and Adrianne.  Cherise had to work and was not happy about that.
It was so nice to have them there, and we missed Cherise and Mayra.

 Good Friends all around came to celebrate.
Crystal had us play a funny game where we had to match the mommy to their baby animal name.
I didn't do as well as I thought I might.  It was hard!

 Refreshments.

 Avery, (Lindsey's daughter) was Meredith's helper and handed her all the gifts.

 Perfect for a Duffy Irish Lass!
She'll fit into it perfectly for St. Patty's Day.

 I made these baby months cards for her to put next to Baby Girl when she takes pictures to document each month birthday. They are 1/2 sheet of cardstock.  My friend and primary secretary helped me get them just right!  Among many of her talents is a computer genius.

 Another gift from Gamma C.
Felt boards and stories with an easel and case to keep everything in.
Our neighbor, friend, and 20 year home teacher (Brett K.) cut all the wood for me.  When he brought it back for me to put together, he had already assembled the whole thing.  That was sooo nice of him, but just the kind of guy he is.

And a basket of receiving blankets that I worked up.
For the shower at Mattie's, Patti and I had to bring a picture of Josh and Mere when they were a baby/toddler.
See Josh on the side?  He was about 18-20 months then.

Everyone was extremely kind and so very generous.
Josh and Meredith and Baby Girl are well loved.

Mani/Pedi/Doctor B.

Today Meredith treated Patti and I to a manicure/pedicure as a thank you for helping her and Josh get ready for the baby these last few months.  Isn't that just such a thoughtful treat?

It was so relaxing, I almost fell asleep.
I haven't had a manicure since they got married.  I'm wearing gloves for everything I do now because I don't want to spoil the baby pink polish.  Haha.  She has invited me to come for the labor and delivery and for some reason I have it in my head that I want my manicure to last for that.  Are you chuckling yet?  Totally not reasonable, but it's lurking around in there none the less.

Then I took her to her appointment.
She has progressed a little more.  Since she has to have an ultrasound each appointment, she has lots of pictures of Baby Girl.  It is fun to see the progression.  Baby Girl has chubby little cheeks and hair (!) and likes her fists up around her face.  She had her arms hugging her knees today and it was as cute as can be.  Fluid pockets are good.  The nst (non-stress-test) went well.  Meredith is having more contractions that she can identify now.  She has a high pain tolerance.  Oh, but her belly.  I get the shivers when I see all the bruises and needle pokes from her blood thinning injections.  An early evidence of the truth that mothers do just about anything for the love of their child.  When I dropped her off after, I went in to see the baby's room and their room and how she is all set up now to bring the baby home.  Everything is assembled now except for the crib, but she will be in the cradle in their room for a while first.

We cleaned out the fridge for dinner leftovers tonight.  I have to say, I like doing that on a Friday. The kids came over to visit, Gidget made her way to cuddle with everyone she could.  Christine had some friends over.  

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Tonka Trucks and Blueprints

Our stake leadership training was tonight.
It went well.  My board is amazing.  That being said, I am always so grateful for the ward leadership of each Primary.  The best women I know.  Each personality and style different but perfect for each group of children.  And bishopric counselors.  They are essential.  Good men.  A Primary president needs a good bishopric counselor to be her advocate for the Primary.

The decorations were darling.  The program nice.  The skit we did hilarious. Good breakout sessions.  I learned a lot.  Always learning.  We had some really good questions we need to research and get answers for.  It was a fun evening.
It was all about 'building'.
So we 'built' a fruit trifle for refreshments.
It was after all 80 degrees today.
What's up with winter?

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Eyeballs and Alligators

I've been up to my eyeballs in alligators!  Not really, but I think that's how the saying goes.

~~Baby showers for Meredith and baby girl.
~~Stake Primary.  Getting ready for our first stake leadership training.  I don't know why I'm so nervous.  Yes, I do.  It's the first one.  I'll be better with that under our belt.
~~A high schooler and getting ready for Winter Formal.  There ya go!  Anybody know where I can find red converse high tops??? in two days???
~~ Ward Conferences with stake conference in between with lots of meetings and 2 dinner meetings.
~~Reports.
~~New Beginnings.
~~Lacrosse.
~~Add cleaning house, laundry, and all the regular daily stuff.

My life, lately.  Busy times.  Good times.

Monday, January 9, 2012

Duff's Talk

Here is Duff's talk he gave on Family History last week in Sacrament Meeting.


Doing Family History and Attending the Temple Will Increase Our Spirituality
January 1, 2011

Brothers and Sisters I am very grateful for the assignment to prepare this talk. I only wish I was as excited to deliver it. I had a calling for several years where I frequently was assigned to ask members of the Stake to come and visit with the Stake President or to deliver a talk in Stake Conference. In the four or so years I had that calling it was very rare if ever that I was turned down, even, if  it was going to be a burden to the assigned individual. That experience has made it difficult for me to turn down an assignment from the Priesthood even if I  would like to. I also learned that the Lord usually has gone out of his way to be sure the individual has had experiences that have prepared them for the  assignment  that was coming.

I would like to thank the Bishopric for listening to the spirit in assigning me this particular topic. Several weeks before I received this assignment I had several spiritual experiences that I believe have prepared me to talk on this subject.

If you would please try and listen not so much to the words or my delivery but please listen with your spiritual ears; your heart. I understand that that requires effort but if you will I promise you that the Lord through the Holy Ghost will speak to you and give you assignments and feelings that will bless your life and that of your family.

On September 21st 1823 Joseph Smith went to the Lord in prayer to know his standing before God. As you are aware a Prophet named Moroni was sent to deliver a message from God and to train and prepare a Prophet.  Of that experience Joseph said "36 After telling me these things, he commenced quoting the prophecies of the Old Testament.....

38  he quoted the fifth verse thus: Behold, I will reveal unto you the aPriesthood, by the hand of bElijah the prophet, before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the cLord.

39 He also quoted the next verse differently: And he shall plant in the hearts of the achildren the bpromises made to the fathers, and the hearts of the children shall turn to their fathers. If it were not so, the whole earth would be utterly wasted at his coming.

From this passage we learn the following: First,  the Priesthood will be revealed by the Prophet Elijah before the Second coming and, second, that you and I made some kind of promise to our fathers before we got here and our hearts need to be turned to them so we can keep our promises.

On April 3rd 1836 13 years after the visit of Moroni  The Prophet recounts the following "13 After this vision had closed, another great and glorious avision burst upon us; for bElijah the prophet, who was taken to heaven without tasting death, stood before us, and said:

14 Behold, the time has fully come, which was spoken of by the mouth of Malachi—testifying that he [Elijah] should be sent, before the great and dreadful day of the Lord come—

15 To aturn the bhearts of the fathers to the children, and the children to the fathers, lest the whole earth be smitten with a curse—

16 Therefore, the akeys of this bdispensation are committed into your hands; and by this ye may know that the great and dreadful cday of the Lord is near, even at the doors.

Six years later the Prophet expounded on this subject of fathers, children and promises "18 It is sufficient to know, in this case, that the earth will be smitten with a bcurse unless there is a welding clink of some kind or other between the fathers and the dchildren, upon some subject or other—and behold what is that subject? It is the ebaptism for the dead. For we without them cannot be made perfect; neither can they without us be made perfect. Neither can they nor we be made perfect without those who have died in the gospel also; for it is necessary in the ushering in of the dispensation of the ffulness of times, which dispensation is now beginning to usher in, that a whole and complete and perfect union, and welding together of dispensations, and keys, and powers, and glories should take place, and be revealed from the days of Adam even to the present time. "

President Eyring  said this on the subject "After Joseph Smith, the Lord called other prophets to lead His Church. One was Joseph F. Smith. He saw in vision what happened in the spirit world when the Savior appeared there between the time of His death and His Resurrection. 3 President Smith saw the joy of the spirits when they learned that the Savior had broken the bands of death and because of His Atonement they could be resurrected. And he saw the Savior organize His servants among the spirits to preach His gospel to every spirit and offer the chance to choose the covenants and the blessings which are offered to you and which you want for your ancestors. All are to have that chance.

President Smith also saw the leaders the Savior called to take the gospel to Heavenly Father's children in the spirit world. He named some of them: Father Adam, Mother Eve, Noah, Abraham, Ezekiel, Elijah, prophets we know from the Book of Mormon, and some from the last days, including Joseph Smith, Brigham Young, John Taylor, and Wilford Woodruff. Think of the power of those missionaries to teach the gospel and to touch the hearts of your ancestors. It is not surprising that Wilford Woodruff said while he lived that he believed few, if any, of the ancestors of the Latter-day Saints in the spirit world would choose to reject the message of salvation when they heard it. 4 "

 Elder John W. Taylor, while attending the Manti Temple dedication, concluded that only one in ten would refuse the ordinances. He added, "how many who are kept in prison are not ready to come out?"

A few weeks ago I had a experience that drove this point home to me. We have from time to time visitors in our high priest meeting that hold positions of leadership in the kingdom of God. I have made it a practice to ask these brethren to take 10 to 15 min. and tell us how thing are going. We had President Morgan of the Redlands Temple in our meeting and I asked him to take a few minutes. He related several experience, two of which I would like to share.

His wife had been doing research on her Fathers and had names that were ready for Priesthood ordinances. They were in the sealing room doing the sealing of families together and president Morgan was officiating.  President Morgan looked up and there was a Brother who was very interested in what was going on. President Morgan said the man was one of Sister Morgan's Long dead "Fathers" and was watching his family being linked together from the other side of the veil. President Morgan shared his impression that he believed that his wife was  one in her Family who had made Promises to her fathers to link that family together. Can you look forward a see the reunion that those of her family will give her when they see her. I am confident it will be joyful beyond anything we might experience in this life. 

This made a significant impression on me because my father's family are all Irish Catholics that have shown no interest in the church. In fact my grandfather never joined the church. He abandoned a family in New York, needed to marry my Grandmother   and according to Duffy legend physically threw the Bishop out of his house. He then passed away when my father was 6.   If we believe what the brethren have said, it looks like most of my family will believe the gospel on the other side of the veil and are most likely waiting for me to get off my "Duff"  and go to work so we can be welded together.

I wonder about those of us who do not have a long pioneer heritage of members in the Church and wish we had a family that was all active. It seems to me we can all have that blessing. It looks like it is not a matter 'if' we belong to a strong active generational temple sealed family, it is a matter of 'when'. We can have our dream of that if we go to work. 

Back to President Morgan. Every night one of the temple presidency walks the temple to close it down. President Morgan was walking the temple and had been down the side that has one sealing room and all was well. He passed through the Celestial room and went to the smaller sealing room. He said he felt the spirits of several people in the room and they were there rejoicing in the sealing's that had just been performed for them. He said that this experience is not a rare one. He then went into the larger sealing room and had the same feeling has he had in the smaller sealing room. He noted that that was not a usual experience. He returned to his office and was informed that the Stake had brought more that would fit in one sealing session so they used the larger sealing room as well.

Brethren and sisters if we will get involved in this work of welding or own or other families together we will have spiritual experiences that will fortify us against the evils of the day.

**I would also like to talk now about the power of the sealing of families together to help us looking into present and the future as well as the past. I get very interested when I hear people talk about their families and recount how many children and grandchildren they have, how many are married in the temple, been on or serving missions, what callings they are in and various other impressive statistics.  While those discussions are I am sure not meant to cause hurt and feelings of inadequacy in some of the rest of us not so blessed with the perfect family situation I am sure they do cause such feelings. I often have those kind of feelings in those kind of experiences. I have yet to hear parents of those who are experiencing difficulty with a child or a spouse share those statistics. We are what I like to call the silent sufferers. I found it very  interesting when my family was faced with one of those difficult situations reaching out to my nonmember friends because they were far less judgmental of my parenting and my family than some of my member friends.   

If I can share a few things I have learned by difficult family experiences that I hope will help you. First you are in good company.  When I read the scriptures as a father looking for examples of fathers who are in family difficulty I see names like Adam & Eve, Abraham, Lehi & Sariah, Alma, King Benjamin, Joseph Smith. If these parents and children had difficulty why should we get discouraged  and question when we have similar experiences. If we liken the scriptures to ourselves does it make sense that family difficulty will happen to great parents and children.  In spite of difficulty these scripture families lived on, prayed on and loved their family in spite of what was going wrong. 

I think I know why they were able to carry on. Let me share a few thoughts from the prophets relating to the sealing power and its effect on our children.

The prophet Joseph Smith declared—and he never taught a more comforting doctrine—that the eternal sealings of faithful parents and the divine promises made to them for valiant service in the Cause of Truth, would save not only themselves but likewise their posterity. Though some of the sheep may wander, the eye of the Shepherd is upon them, and sooner or later they will feel the tentacles of Divine Providence reaching out after them, and drawing them back to the fold. Either in this life or the life to come, they will return. They will have to pay their debt to justice, they will suffer for their sins, and may tread a thorny path, but if it leads them at last, like the penitent prodigal, to a loving and forgiving Father’s heart and home, the painful experience will not have been in vain. Pray for your careless and disobedient children; hold on to them with your faith. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God. “Who are these straying sheep—these wayward sons and daughters? They are the children of the Covenant, heirs to the promise, and have received, if baptized, the Gift of the Holy Ghost, which makes manifest the things of God. Could all that go for naught?

Elder Orson F. Whitney said "You Parents of the willful and the wayward! Don’t give them up. Don’t cast them off. They are not utterly lost. The Shepherd will find his sheep. They were his before they were yours--long before he entrusted them to your care; and you cannot begin to love them as he loves them. They have but strayed in ignorance from the Path of Right, and God is merciful to ignorance. Only the fullness of knowledge brings the fullness of accountability. Our Heavenly Father is far more merciful, infinitely more charitable, than even the best of his servants, and the Everlasting Gospel is mightier in power to save than our narrow finite minds can comprehend” (Elder Orson F. Whitney, April Conference 1929)

“President Brigham Young said: ‘Let the father and mother, who are members of this Church and Kingdom, take a righteous course...if they conduct themselves towards them as they should, binding them to the Lord by their faith and prayers, I care not where those children go, they are bound up to their parents by an everlasting tie, and no power of earth or hell can separate them from their parents in eternity; they will return again to the foundation from whence they sprang.’” (Boyd K. Packer, April Conference 1992)

I testify that the sealing power and the linking of families will assist in saving our fathers, us and our children. If we get involved saving our fathers and remembering our promises to them they will be able to assist us in our efforts to help them and in our efforts with our families.  To those with a less than ideal family situation I testify that we can have the kind of family we want to have even if those hopes seem currently impossible. Please don't give up.  Don't lose hope.  In Gods family it is not a matter of 'if' but 'when'.  

We individually will have an increase in our spiritual experiences by serving in the temples and by keeping our promises to our fathers.

Bear testimony.

Close in the Name of Jesus Christ.  Amen.

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Double 12 Dominoes/Our Version of Mexican Train

Duff went to his morning leadership meetings.  Everyone is still not doing so well around here.  Adrianne hasn't even come out of their room today.

Duff came home and went back to bed.  Chris and I went to church.  I came home after Sacrament Meeting.  She bore her testimony today.

The kids were all here for dinner.  We had roast chicken and I put a peach cobbler in the oven for dessert.  It sure is nice to have the filling all done in the freezer and just have to whip up the biscuit topping.

We played double 12 dominoes.
It is one of our favorite games.
Duff won, and I totally came in dead last.
We play our own version of Mexican Train.

Baby Girl had the hiccups and I got to feel them.
None of my babies ever had the hiccups while I was pregnant.
3-4 more weeks to go.  Mere has a doctor appointment tomorrow.  She is hoping for a 'date' to be scheduled.  Since she has the blood clotting/thinning issue, the labor and delivery has to be very calculated.  

Saturday, January 7, 2012

TODAY, January 7, 2011

TODAY was Adrianne's grandpa's funeral.  Sweet Grandpa Conrad.  He was a love.  Have peace sweet man.  He suffered a heart attack and drove himself to the hospital in Palm Desert.  He never left the hospital. 

TODAY, Craig's Uncle Stephen passed away.  He had a long battle to die the last few months.  It's taken it's toll on the family.  Lisa was a great help to his wife, Carol.  My dad has been asked to speak at the memorial service on the 22nd.

TODAY is birthday to so many people I love.  My nieces Rebekah and Brooke, and my cousin, Jeff P.

TODAY Duff and Christine went to the temple in the early morning to participate in baptisms for the dead.  They love to do this together.  They both walked in the door and went back to bed.  Still suffering from the cold bug.

TODAY Christine and some friends made tshirts and banners and asked some boys to the Winter Formal dance.  There are some pictures floating around out there that I hope to get soon.  Christine asked Brandon Neilson.  He is a great guy and they will have fun. 

TODAY I thought I would take my Christmas tree down.  I didn't.  Next week, I guess!

TODAY I kept shredding.  Shredding, shredding.  Shredding.  I get through about 1 box a week.  Six more boxes to go.  I didn't realize how expensive it is to have things shredded professionally.  I didn't even know they had those services.  I will definitely stick to shredding it myself.  Oh boy!

Friday, January 6, 2012

Our Life This Week

One by one, every person in our house has gotten this current cold bug.
We have gone through 12 boxes of tissue this week alone.
I went to Target mid week to get some over the counter helps.  The shelves were practically naked.  It was slim pickin's.  The line for the pharmacy went down the aisle and around the main aisle.  It was crazy.  I just kept thinking what was wrong with us.  This is the 2nd go-round for our family with colds this season so far.  Then I realized that we aren't the only ones.  Mom's had babies and small children screaming in the pharmacy line.  They were sick themselves along side their family.  Those of us looking for items to give some relief for our symptoms struck up conversations and compared notes.  The shelves at CVS were bare as well.
Even our AZ families have been sick with this.  My mom ended up at the doctor.  Lisa needs to go to the doctor.  My dad is healthy.  He is convinced it is because his system is more alkaline based than acidic.  He recommends that we all take bicarbonate of soda twice a day.  At first I was like, yeah right.  But maybe he's on to something.  He's 80 years old and hasn't had a cold in 3 years. 
His nephrologist (kidney doctor) put him on a regimen a few years ago to get his blood to a more alkaline state to help with his kidney disease.  He hasn't had a respiratory problem since.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Some Christmas Eve

 Gathered around the table.
Meredith and Adrianne set it beautifully.

 These pictures are all about the glass.
See how cute and tiny it is?
My great-auntie Helen gave this to me when I was little.  Auntie Helen is my Grandma Myrna Davis's oldest sister.  I remember going to the various homes she and great-Uncle Charles lived at in Pasadena until they passed away when I was a teenager.  They were always classy and gracious hosts.  She didn't miss a detail.  I've sinced learned that this glass has something to do with after dinner drinks.  Uncle Charles did have a few vices....
I got it out of the hutch and put it on the table for John for Christmas Eve dinner.  A sippy cup just wasn't doing it for me.  He LOVED it.  He did really well drinking out of a big person glass and probably drank more liquid than he ate food.  He was fascinated with that glass!  Perfect for his 2 year old hands.

 He wasn't too sure about Santa at first, but really warmed up to him during his visit.
Adrianne had the better camera and the better angle, so she has the rest of the pictures and I will get them from her when she loads them.

Santa brought candy canes and John decorated my beaded wire trees with them.